Alright, so I went out to the Red Carpet with my friend Senia, who is transfering to South Dakota State University in the fall. It was her going away party and we wanted to, well, party. And we did. When we got there, there was an $8 cover. No prob. I planned for it. But the bouncer inspected Senia's id with a fine tooth comb, whereas with me he glanced at it and then stared at my boobs, which were in a strapless hot pink top, with a hole in the middle. After in, we both had a couple drinks and when Hairball(band) came on we went out on the dancefloor where we were hit on my drunken straight men. Surprisingly, me more than Senia. But this could be because she had a man-friend to dance with a little too. One guy started trying to dance on me. I move closer to Senia. He comes closer, I move closer. He continues I give him the "fuck off" look. He obviously is one of the dumbest men on the planet, so Senia plays the dutiful friend card and says that I am her girlfriend. He looks confused. She says she doesn't share. Man goes away for a while. He comes back a while later and tries again this time we have escalated to physical contact between me and him.(Senia has already pushed him). I give him the shrug and elbow him. He doesn't come back and its almost over. Two other guys try my patience in between. One tries to give me a beer. First, I don't drink beer. Second, I wasn't born yesterday, you never take a drink from a guy. Third, it was open, danger! danger! The third guy was old. Like thirties old if not more. It was dark so age perception sucks. I dont think I look old. I am 22 fucking years old, why the hell would I want a guy in his thirties or forties (besides the why would I want a guy question).
So my questions are:
Why can't I dress like a slut and not be bothered?
Why can't I dance alone or with a girlie female friend?
How come men don't get the leave me the fuck alone look?
And finally, whether it is true or not, if a woman says she's a lesbian it means she doesn't want a man, that includes you!
Friday, April 30, 2010
Tuesday, April 13, 2010
Sexualized Woman Walking
A simple act such as walking down the street(or several miles in my case) is potentially dangerous for women. I decided since it was nice outside yesterday I would walk to school. It's quite a ways but I left at 11am and got there around 1pm. Not too bad. I decided it would be in my best interest to go up to the main business street and walk down that most of the way because it is highly populated. While I was walking on this street I was the target of car harassment, with men yelling things out their windows and a couple people honked. I had my headphones in one ear so that I couldn't hear certain things but was still aware enough to be safe. When I had to cross the major road I got very nervous because there was a man ahead of me who kept looking back and giving me a "coy" smile. He seemed like he was up to no good and I fell back so that I would not have to risk him talking to me. I also grabbed my mace from my purse and held that most of the walk. He eventually disappeared and that only served to freak me out more. I ended up stopping at Superamerica since I find that to be a safe place and got a slurpee. As I was leaving I decided to turn and go along a different street when I hear behind me a very loud whistle. I don't mind the honking but really. I am not "hot." I was wearing a tank, shorts and a bandanna; I was not very visually pleasing and being that I am obese this really baffles me. I understand the psychological oppression and men's desires to make women know they think they are a "nice piece of ass" but really these men cannot be objectifying and sexualizing a fat girl. I know a little too well how screwed up society and men are but that doesn't add up. Some may claim group mentality or men's attempt at belittling women.
Wednesday, April 7, 2010
Hair is a Woman's Crowning Glory
Hair has been a major part of society since the beginning of time, or at least record. Egyptians would dawn elaborate wigs as a symbol of status, which is also seen later with the French nobility. Hair has always been a part of culture. It describes who you are and where you belong. This is not necessarily the case in modern America, but just sixty years ago Hitler was using hair color to eliminate groups of people in his quest for the “perfect Aryan race.” We have moved away from hair’s original value but our society still values hair, if it didn’t the three aisles in stores devoted solely to hair would not exist, balding wouldn’t be a traumatic life event, things would not be the way they are.
Hair color as it naturally is gives people an impression about your personality, temperament, and sometimes can severely affect whether someone will like you. The least common hair color is red; there is only 1-2% of the human population with red hair. They are often seen as fiery and having bad tempers as well as being oversexed. Many redheads have faced discrimination because of their hair color—this is called gingerism. This often ties into the discrimination that the Irish endured and red hair is seen as a connection to Irish heritage. Some women have dyed their hair red as a way to boost their confidence and up their sex appeal.
Brown hair is the second most common human hair color and can vary from light brown to nearly black. The term “brunette” actually means “little brown-haired girl” but is often used to describe any woman who has brown hair. Like brunettes, blondes are only women because only women are defined solely on physical characteristics. It is not usually socially acceptable to call a man a “blond” because he is seen for more than his hair. Blondes are considered to be innocent and often stereotyped as dumb and naïve. But blondes have also become major sex icons because of women such as Marilyn Monroe. Black hair is the most common hair color internationally. There are many variations of black in hair color and is most common outside of Europe, but is not normally seen in the US as a normally accepted attractive hair color.
Many women dye their hair and they do it for various reasons. Some feel that they look more attractive, whereas others may be attempting to make a point. I believed the hype as a child/teenager about blondes being prettier and having more fun, so I dyed my hair blonde and later on when I realized how bad it looked, I understood that that was a stupid mistake that I made just to get attention. I have known many women who didn’t like the stigma of blonde hair and actually dyed it darker to be taken more seriously. Black hair is often used to make a statement. The punk/emo movement glorified black hair and extremely pale skin.
Now let’s add neon or unnatural hair colors such as pink, purple, blue or green. These colors not occurring naturally in hair can be an obvious sign of disobedience or rebellion. Brightly colored hair started to appear in the mainstream in the 1980’s. Rock was big and so was hair. The Mohawk being the most recognizable style of hair deviance was often colored in a rainbow of possible shades.
Gray hair—many would say that gray is not an act of resistance. How could it be? People, women especially, do not go out searching for gray hair. In a culture that embraces youth and shuns the aging, for a woman to embrace her gray hair is a major form of social resistance. Many women, if they had never dyed their hair before, will buy their first box of hair dye upon the sight of her first gray. To not conform to the ageist ideals of the American culture is a small sometimes unnoticeable act of social resistance.
A little bit of hair history suggests that the desire for long blonde hair today is not that far from the ancients who would attempt to bleach their hair and add golden powder for luster. Long hair was a sign of femininity in European traditions. In Africa braids were often used but some cultures sported hair that came down to the waist, which is not commonly seen now (source). Dangerous chemicals have been applied to our skin and hair for centuries, lead based make-ups to powdered wigs infested with vermin of the 1800’s, now there are relaxers and hair dyes that have more warning label than actual direction as well as controversial chemicals such as parabens, which the government either doesn’t know the dangers or doesn’t care if they do. The big change from these standards came in the 1920’s when women decided to liberate themselves even more. Now you could vote, wear pants, smoke or drink in public and cut your hair. Short hairstyles have become one of the most memorable things of the decade, and a perfect mark of the young boyish flapper. After the flapper hair has been changing expectations every decade to what is the new “in.”
No one would ever assume that hair would be the new front of political movements but it is becoming that. From women’s rights to gay rights to race rights even to animal rights, hair has become political. Women can now have short hair (as long as it is feminine) and not be harassed. Lesbians and gay men are dealing with the politics of hair in the LGBT movement dealing with the issues of passing or not. Ethnic groups have been fighting for more products designed for their specific hair. There are about as many products for African American hair as there are products catered specifically to blondes. And as far as animal rights are concerned many product lines are cruelty-free and this is advertized on the product because it has become an issue that can influence whether a person buys the product or not. I have been cruelty-free for almost two years with my products and cosmetics, the only exception being certain hair dyes and that is for safety.
Dreadlocks are seen as gross, unclean, and a sign of laziness by many Americans. In actuality, dreadlocks do not happen overnight and they are not an accident. To make dreads is an intentional act and is often cultural or religious. As far as they being Rastafarian, that is true but they did not originate there. There are records of Ancient Egyptians with dreads as well as Hindus, and Africans. But commonly now it is under the Rasta influence of do nothing to one’s own body, therefore no intervention with the hair. Some African Americans may dread for a remembrance of African culture. But most importantly not everyone who dreads is part of a culture that dreadlocks are associated with. Salons have begun offering services to get dreadlocks if you have thin straight hair and need chemical assistance. Famous singer/songwriter/feminist Ani DiFranco rocked dreadlocks for a while and then a shaved head, thus proving that beauty doesn’t have to mean conventional hairstyles.
Shaving one’s head, especially for women, can be dramatic since it is not usually acceptable for a woman to not have hair. If she has a shaved head people may assume that she has cancer and lost her hair. Whereas if a man shaves his head (not balding) it is a statement of masculinity, he looks tough and for men it is a positive message. On the other hand if a man is balding, usually this can cause him to feel less masculine. In Barbara Ehrenreich's Welcome to Cancerland, she describes who when women get breast cancer they are given lots of pink items to make them still feel feminine. This could be because many have to get mastectomies but it could also have to do with the effects of chemotherapy on a woman's physical appearance. But how could crayons and a pink teddy bear make a woman feel more womanly?
For those women who may not have hair either because of illness, desire or genetic disorder can always wear wigs. Wigs are the fantastic creation designed to allow hair to be changed as easily as clothing—at least theoretically. If a woman has difficulty growing hair for a variety of reasons, wigs give her the freedom to have hair and not be judged. But wigs are not just for people who lack hair, many people like the temporariness of the wig. You can change the length, color and texture in one simple move with no more commitment than the purchase. This works well for actors/actresses and drag performers who only need the hair for a little while. These hair pieces are life changing for people, a woman can portray herself in a professional way all day at work and then at the end of the day she can have a new crazy hairstyle that she can wear out on the town, at a protest, or in her non-professional life. There is a freedom in the changeability of hair through wigs.
A popular time in feminist history was the 1960’s and 1970’s. Many of the feminists of this era were known for burning bras and not shaving their legs or underarms. The act of not shaving was an act of social resistance against conventional beauty standards in the “women can do anything men can do” era. Why should women have to shave to be “feminine” it is just hair and if women are really suppose to be hairless we should be shaving our heads and eyebrows and plucking lashes. Every last hair from our bodies should be removed. But its socially acceptable and in essence required for women to have eyebrows, lashes, and well groomed hair on their heads. Arm hair is okay as long as it isn’t too think or too dark. Though men are now beginning to be required to shave off or neatly groom facial hair, it is not at the level of unacceptability as a woman with unshaven legs going to work in a skirt.
Hair should be hair, but it’s not as if every hair on a woman’s body isn’t up for scrutiny by someone. Many women do their hair to go to the grocery store or Walmart because they know they will be treated differently if they are wearing certain clothes and dressed in certain ways. If they deter from the norms than they are thought to either be deviant or unacceptable or often both, which can be difficult for women who are trying to be socially resistant and are often taken the wrong way. A woman who shaves her head to make a point can be considered a criminal at first thought as are some people who color their hair bright colors. They are seen as social deviants not necessarily socially resistant.
There are many ways that sexuality is exhibited in appearance, hair is a major factor. The sexuality that hair exhibits is linked to reasons why Muslim women have to have their hair covered. The men in the culture are believed to not be able to control themselves and therefore it is a means of protecting a woman. Stacy in Weitz's “Women and Their Hair,” discusses how her boyfriend would make comments about how she was pretty because of her hair, so she deliberately cut it all off to make the point that she is more than just her hair(145). I think the most important thing to remember is that resistance is about intentionality and if an act is not an intentional act of resistance, it is not resistance. A person could cut and style their hair in a way that seems resistant but is in actuality a way of conforming. Weitz describes resistance as a way of rejecting subordination. That could be the cause of the act of resistance, but I think that it is too small of a definition to determine. A white male could grow long hair as a way of rejecting his masculinity and he is not combating subordination but he is using his hair as a form of social resistance. Therefore, to say that subordination is required eliminates a large group of people enacting social resistance.
Hair color as it naturally is gives people an impression about your personality, temperament, and sometimes can severely affect whether someone will like you. The least common hair color is red; there is only 1-2% of the human population with red hair. They are often seen as fiery and having bad tempers as well as being oversexed. Many redheads have faced discrimination because of their hair color—this is called gingerism. This often ties into the discrimination that the Irish endured and red hair is seen as a connection to Irish heritage. Some women have dyed their hair red as a way to boost their confidence and up their sex appeal.
Brown hair is the second most common human hair color and can vary from light brown to nearly black. The term “brunette” actually means “little brown-haired girl” but is often used to describe any woman who has brown hair. Like brunettes, blondes are only women because only women are defined solely on physical characteristics. It is not usually socially acceptable to call a man a “blond” because he is seen for more than his hair. Blondes are considered to be innocent and often stereotyped as dumb and naïve. But blondes have also become major sex icons because of women such as Marilyn Monroe. Black hair is the most common hair color internationally. There are many variations of black in hair color and is most common outside of Europe, but is not normally seen in the US as a normally accepted attractive hair color.
Many women dye their hair and they do it for various reasons. Some feel that they look more attractive, whereas others may be attempting to make a point. I believed the hype as a child/teenager about blondes being prettier and having more fun, so I dyed my hair blonde and later on when I realized how bad it looked, I understood that that was a stupid mistake that I made just to get attention. I have known many women who didn’t like the stigma of blonde hair and actually dyed it darker to be taken more seriously. Black hair is often used to make a statement. The punk/emo movement glorified black hair and extremely pale skin.
Now let’s add neon or unnatural hair colors such as pink, purple, blue or green. These colors not occurring naturally in hair can be an obvious sign of disobedience or rebellion. Brightly colored hair started to appear in the mainstream in the 1980’s. Rock was big and so was hair. The Mohawk being the most recognizable style of hair deviance was often colored in a rainbow of possible shades.
Gray hair—many would say that gray is not an act of resistance. How could it be? People, women especially, do not go out searching for gray hair. In a culture that embraces youth and shuns the aging, for a woman to embrace her gray hair is a major form of social resistance. Many women, if they had never dyed their hair before, will buy their first box of hair dye upon the sight of her first gray. To not conform to the ageist ideals of the American culture is a small sometimes unnoticeable act of social resistance.
A little bit of hair history suggests that the desire for long blonde hair today is not that far from the ancients who would attempt to bleach their hair and add golden powder for luster. Long hair was a sign of femininity in European traditions. In Africa braids were often used but some cultures sported hair that came down to the waist, which is not commonly seen now (source). Dangerous chemicals have been applied to our skin and hair for centuries, lead based make-ups to powdered wigs infested with vermin of the 1800’s, now there are relaxers and hair dyes that have more warning label than actual direction as well as controversial chemicals such as parabens, which the government either doesn’t know the dangers or doesn’t care if they do. The big change from these standards came in the 1920’s when women decided to liberate themselves even more. Now you could vote, wear pants, smoke or drink in public and cut your hair. Short hairstyles have become one of the most memorable things of the decade, and a perfect mark of the young boyish flapper. After the flapper hair has been changing expectations every decade to what is the new “in.”
No one would ever assume that hair would be the new front of political movements but it is becoming that. From women’s rights to gay rights to race rights even to animal rights, hair has become political. Women can now have short hair (as long as it is feminine) and not be harassed. Lesbians and gay men are dealing with the politics of hair in the LGBT movement dealing with the issues of passing or not. Ethnic groups have been fighting for more products designed for their specific hair. There are about as many products for African American hair as there are products catered specifically to blondes. And as far as animal rights are concerned many product lines are cruelty-free and this is advertized on the product because it has become an issue that can influence whether a person buys the product or not. I have been cruelty-free for almost two years with my products and cosmetics, the only exception being certain hair dyes and that is for safety.
Dreadlocks are seen as gross, unclean, and a sign of laziness by many Americans. In actuality, dreadlocks do not happen overnight and they are not an accident. To make dreads is an intentional act and is often cultural or religious. As far as they being Rastafarian, that is true but they did not originate there. There are records of Ancient Egyptians with dreads as well as Hindus, and Africans. But commonly now it is under the Rasta influence of do nothing to one’s own body, therefore no intervention with the hair. Some African Americans may dread for a remembrance of African culture. But most importantly not everyone who dreads is part of a culture that dreadlocks are associated with. Salons have begun offering services to get dreadlocks if you have thin straight hair and need chemical assistance. Famous singer/songwriter/feminist Ani DiFranco rocked dreadlocks for a while and then a shaved head, thus proving that beauty doesn’t have to mean conventional hairstyles.
Shaving one’s head, especially for women, can be dramatic since it is not usually acceptable for a woman to not have hair. If she has a shaved head people may assume that she has cancer and lost her hair. Whereas if a man shaves his head (not balding) it is a statement of masculinity, he looks tough and for men it is a positive message. On the other hand if a man is balding, usually this can cause him to feel less masculine. In Barbara Ehrenreich's Welcome to Cancerland, she describes who when women get breast cancer they are given lots of pink items to make them still feel feminine. This could be because many have to get mastectomies but it could also have to do with the effects of chemotherapy on a woman's physical appearance. But how could crayons and a pink teddy bear make a woman feel more womanly?
For those women who may not have hair either because of illness, desire or genetic disorder can always wear wigs. Wigs are the fantastic creation designed to allow hair to be changed as easily as clothing—at least theoretically. If a woman has difficulty growing hair for a variety of reasons, wigs give her the freedom to have hair and not be judged. But wigs are not just for people who lack hair, many people like the temporariness of the wig. You can change the length, color and texture in one simple move with no more commitment than the purchase. This works well for actors/actresses and drag performers who only need the hair for a little while. These hair pieces are life changing for people, a woman can portray herself in a professional way all day at work and then at the end of the day she can have a new crazy hairstyle that she can wear out on the town, at a protest, or in her non-professional life. There is a freedom in the changeability of hair through wigs.
A popular time in feminist history was the 1960’s and 1970’s. Many of the feminists of this era were known for burning bras and not shaving their legs or underarms. The act of not shaving was an act of social resistance against conventional beauty standards in the “women can do anything men can do” era. Why should women have to shave to be “feminine” it is just hair and if women are really suppose to be hairless we should be shaving our heads and eyebrows and plucking lashes. Every last hair from our bodies should be removed. But its socially acceptable and in essence required for women to have eyebrows, lashes, and well groomed hair on their heads. Arm hair is okay as long as it isn’t too think or too dark. Though men are now beginning to be required to shave off or neatly groom facial hair, it is not at the level of unacceptability as a woman with unshaven legs going to work in a skirt.
Hair should be hair, but it’s not as if every hair on a woman’s body isn’t up for scrutiny by someone. Many women do their hair to go to the grocery store or Walmart because they know they will be treated differently if they are wearing certain clothes and dressed in certain ways. If they deter from the norms than they are thought to either be deviant or unacceptable or often both, which can be difficult for women who are trying to be socially resistant and are often taken the wrong way. A woman who shaves her head to make a point can be considered a criminal at first thought as are some people who color their hair bright colors. They are seen as social deviants not necessarily socially resistant.
There are many ways that sexuality is exhibited in appearance, hair is a major factor. The sexuality that hair exhibits is linked to reasons why Muslim women have to have their hair covered. The men in the culture are believed to not be able to control themselves and therefore it is a means of protecting a woman. Stacy in Weitz's “Women and Their Hair,” discusses how her boyfriend would make comments about how she was pretty because of her hair, so she deliberately cut it all off to make the point that she is more than just her hair(145). I think the most important thing to remember is that resistance is about intentionality and if an act is not an intentional act of resistance, it is not resistance. A person could cut and style their hair in a way that seems resistant but is in actuality a way of conforming. Weitz describes resistance as a way of rejecting subordination. That could be the cause of the act of resistance, but I think that it is too small of a definition to determine. A white male could grow long hair as a way of rejecting his masculinity and he is not combating subordination but he is using his hair as a form of social resistance. Therefore, to say that subordination is required eliminates a large group of people enacting social resistance.
Hair
Alright I'm going to say it. Women have hair. And not just on our heads and in the "appropriate" places. If I was supposed to be hairless, let's see, I would have been born with the inability to grow hair. But I wasn't and most women weren't either. But have you noticed, body hair is gross, but we look down on people who are balding or do not have hair because of medical reasons.
This scandal with Mo'Nique is a definite sign of this hostile attitude to women with hair. I, myself, have experimented with hair growth as a form or social resistance but I could never come to wear tank tops or short skirts for fear of being mocked. First, as long as you cleanse, and I suggest shampoo(it's hair right?), odor doesn't permeate from beneath your arms as some may think. Deodorant is still possible and encouraged. And look at it this way, if men can get away with it why can't you or me? Plus look how far women go on their hair alone for beauty standards. We pluck, wax, shave, bleach, electrolyze, you name it women have done it to their hair. And that was just body hair. Our lovely locks are braided, colored, permed, curled, twirled, ratted, teased, dreaded, straightened, gelled, tinted, hairsprayed, whatever. We do a lot to our hair. I cannot speak for all men but most wash and go, occasionally putting in gel. Some groom longer than me, but that is rare and never talked about. Catch a man holding a styling product and many would rather have you catch them buying tampons (because at least that can be for a mom or girlfriend). Men also feel the need to defend anything feminine that they do because it is not mainstream, and frankly, many women are preventing men from making concerns for their appearance mainstream. I am not going to get into how this is homophobic because my concern is hair.
My hair has been the source of many cry sessions, death threats, and self-hatred; because as women we are often identified by our hair. As a natural brunette, I never have to worry about anyone commenting about my intelligence. No one ever says to a blond man that he is ditzy or stupid solely on the basis of his hair color. But also I have the desire to have blonde curly hair since mine is straight and brunette. This could be because I want what I do not have or it could be the deeper societal pressures for me to conform mixed with my desire to rebel. The conforming would be the blonde, since blond is deemed more attractive and innocent I would be conforming. With the curls it could be a little of both. Curls also symbolize innocence but are not seen as desirable because of their non-seriousness and difficult nature. Straight manageable blonde shiny hair is what is really desired.
This scandal with Mo'Nique is a definite sign of this hostile attitude to women with hair. I, myself, have experimented with hair growth as a form or social resistance but I could never come to wear tank tops or short skirts for fear of being mocked. First, as long as you cleanse, and I suggest shampoo(it's hair right?), odor doesn't permeate from beneath your arms as some may think. Deodorant is still possible and encouraged. And look at it this way, if men can get away with it why can't you or me? Plus look how far women go on their hair alone for beauty standards. We pluck, wax, shave, bleach, electrolyze, you name it women have done it to their hair. And that was just body hair. Our lovely locks are braided, colored, permed, curled, twirled, ratted, teased, dreaded, straightened, gelled, tinted, hairsprayed, whatever. We do a lot to our hair. I cannot speak for all men but most wash and go, occasionally putting in gel. Some groom longer than me, but that is rare and never talked about. Catch a man holding a styling product and many would rather have you catch them buying tampons (because at least that can be for a mom or girlfriend). Men also feel the need to defend anything feminine that they do because it is not mainstream, and frankly, many women are preventing men from making concerns for their appearance mainstream. I am not going to get into how this is homophobic because my concern is hair.
My hair has been the source of many cry sessions, death threats, and self-hatred; because as women we are often identified by our hair. As a natural brunette, I never have to worry about anyone commenting about my intelligence. No one ever says to a blond man that he is ditzy or stupid solely on the basis of his hair color. But also I have the desire to have blonde curly hair since mine is straight and brunette. This could be because I want what I do not have or it could be the deeper societal pressures for me to conform mixed with my desire to rebel. The conforming would be the blonde, since blond is deemed more attractive and innocent I would be conforming. With the curls it could be a little of both. Curls also symbolize innocence but are not seen as desirable because of their non-seriousness and difficult nature. Straight manageable blonde shiny hair is what is really desired.
Plastic Women
Plastic Surgery
I understand the concept, “it worked for Barbie, so it must work for me.” If you don’t know of what I speak, it’s plastic. Barbie has Ken, several very stylish cars and a dream house, as well as any career imaginable. Why wouldn’t you follow in her only high-heeled footsteps. Well now you can. You can turn yourself into a living breathing Barbie, many women already have. The breathing part will eventually be debatable since with every procedure you run the risk of never waking up. But, hey, at least you’ll be beautiful, right?
Nothing More Insecure Than Plastic Women
Once we get down to the real root of the problem--self-esteem is the really where everything is based. Women and even some men are going under the knife to deal with their insecurities. Women are more likely to get a procedure done for someone else. Whether it be because their mother is harping on them about their “funny shaped” nose, or because their boyfriend/husband wants them to have a bigger rack; its rarely because they want it or even thought about it. A stranger could comment on a body part and it will stick with you, he might even be the reason that triggers your drastic decision. I mean if one person calls you fat or ugly, no matter how many people tell you that you are pretty, beautiful [insert appropriate word here], you will never forget who called you fat or ugly. Most likely you will remember everything you were wearing, how your hair was styled, what you were doing and you will avoid some or all of that after careful dissection over why he may have said what he did.
So really women need to re-evaluate why they are allowing some doctor, who may or may not be fully qualified to perform the procedure, carve into them like the piece of meat that they are viewed as.
Things to consider before going under:
Have you thoroughly researched your impending cosmetic procedure?
Can you afford it?
What happens if something goes wrong?
What if you don’t like how you feel after?
Is it really worth it?
Seriously, Are The Big Boobs Really For YOU?
Now seriously, when does a woman want to have silicone or saline bags strapped to her chest under her real breasts? When a man tells her she does. I’m not saying that women can’t think for themselves but well many times they can’t. He’ll threaten to leave her if she doesn’t do it, he’ll constantly tell her she’s unattractive or he’ll even withhold sexual activities until she agrees. Though I wouldn’t think that would be the end of the world. For a man to withhold from a woman means that he would be willing to leave her for a bustier version that’ll worship every word he says. I will give women some credit, sometimes clothes can look better if you have more of a chest, but I have always found that it is harder to find clothes that can accommodate for a larger chest. And for vanity’s sake, if you are concerned with your clothing size you wouldn’t want to have to buy a size or two larger just so your newly implanted breasts can fit. And for the sake of swimsuits and avoiding embarrassment, many women find it hard enough to keep their suit from falling off at water parks and the beach, now imagine having to fit a size D into a string bikini and not have it fly up.
So when you start signing up for the consultation consider all the things that could happen with a bigger set of boobs.
Born Again Virgins?
There is a big following for the concept of being a born-again virgin. It’s a product of virginity pledges and guilt-laden abstinence-only education. You were never supposed to have given it away to begin with but you can swear you’ll never do it again. And with that comes expectations, the expectations that once you are married, your husband (because lesbians don’t exist) will never know that he was not your first. You will never know who his was, and with some men I would be amazed if they even know. But don’t worry there is a solution--vaginal rejuvenation.
This is a simple solution for the women who wish to regain their hymens. They can experience that painful deflowering all over again with another drunken frat boy or their husband who they will swear their life to; and then divorce five years later. I honestly don’t believe that an intelligent woman, who is not brainwashed by the her, would ever wish to relose her virginity. Plus it will never be as traumatic as the first time, since you will still have some recollection of what it was like. Therefore other than increasing your bride-price, surgically regaining your virginity is a waste.
If that wasn’t enough to put some perspective into your head than think about this:
In America, this procedure is completely voluntary and you pay someone to perform it.
In Africa, similar procedures are done, such as cutting the inner labia or clitoris and we define that as genital mutilation.
So therefore, you are paying a doctor to perform an elective genital mutilation upon you for the purpose of appearing more sexually appealing to a man or to become more “innocent.” This alone indicates a corrupt society that believes that purity can be linked to a strange, usually male, doctor feeling you up while you’re knocked out and then slicing and dicing at your sacred-God-given-dirty-woman-parts. And this is acceptable in the Christian faith? Wait it’s not even just acceptable its encouraged!
Then not only are you supposed to be reshaped but that hair needs to be gone. I don’t care if you shave, wax, pluck, trim, go au natural; but if you choose to take it off, don’t do it to look more youthful. Any man that tells you it’s sexy to be completely bare and “youthful” is on the fast track to pedophilia and child molestation. Run now before it’s too late. But if you just prefer the feel or the ease of going bare do it for those reasons, not because some man says it turns him on. And in that case if you don’t care about the hair down there, tell him if he requires you to remove it, you require him to do the same and the same way at that. (just don’t tell him about taking the NSAIDS before the Brazilian wax)
Just remember it’s YOUR body so don’t listen to anyone about what you do with it, unless there is a danger and it’s your doctor.
I understand the concept, “it worked for Barbie, so it must work for me.” If you don’t know of what I speak, it’s plastic. Barbie has Ken, several very stylish cars and a dream house, as well as any career imaginable. Why wouldn’t you follow in her only high-heeled footsteps. Well now you can. You can turn yourself into a living breathing Barbie, many women already have. The breathing part will eventually be debatable since with every procedure you run the risk of never waking up. But, hey, at least you’ll be beautiful, right?
Nothing More Insecure Than Plastic Women
Once we get down to the real root of the problem--self-esteem is the really where everything is based. Women and even some men are going under the knife to deal with their insecurities. Women are more likely to get a procedure done for someone else. Whether it be because their mother is harping on them about their “funny shaped” nose, or because their boyfriend/husband wants them to have a bigger rack; its rarely because they want it or even thought about it. A stranger could comment on a body part and it will stick with you, he might even be the reason that triggers your drastic decision. I mean if one person calls you fat or ugly, no matter how many people tell you that you are pretty, beautiful [insert appropriate word here], you will never forget who called you fat or ugly. Most likely you will remember everything you were wearing, how your hair was styled, what you were doing and you will avoid some or all of that after careful dissection over why he may have said what he did.
So really women need to re-evaluate why they are allowing some doctor, who may or may not be fully qualified to perform the procedure, carve into them like the piece of meat that they are viewed as.
Things to consider before going under:
Have you thoroughly researched your impending cosmetic procedure?
Can you afford it?
What happens if something goes wrong?
What if you don’t like how you feel after?
Is it really worth it?
Seriously, Are The Big Boobs Really For YOU?
Now seriously, when does a woman want to have silicone or saline bags strapped to her chest under her real breasts? When a man tells her she does. I’m not saying that women can’t think for themselves but well many times they can’t. He’ll threaten to leave her if she doesn’t do it, he’ll constantly tell her she’s unattractive or he’ll even withhold sexual activities until she agrees. Though I wouldn’t think that would be the end of the world. For a man to withhold from a woman means that he would be willing to leave her for a bustier version that’ll worship every word he says. I will give women some credit, sometimes clothes can look better if you have more of a chest, but I have always found that it is harder to find clothes that can accommodate for a larger chest. And for vanity’s sake, if you are concerned with your clothing size you wouldn’t want to have to buy a size or two larger just so your newly implanted breasts can fit. And for the sake of swimsuits and avoiding embarrassment, many women find it hard enough to keep their suit from falling off at water parks and the beach, now imagine having to fit a size D into a string bikini and not have it fly up.
So when you start signing up for the consultation consider all the things that could happen with a bigger set of boobs.
Born Again Virgins?
There is a big following for the concept of being a born-again virgin. It’s a product of virginity pledges and guilt-laden abstinence-only education. You were never supposed to have given it away to begin with but you can swear you’ll never do it again. And with that comes expectations, the expectations that once you are married, your husband (because lesbians don’t exist) will never know that he was not your first. You will never know who his was, and with some men I would be amazed if they even know. But don’t worry there is a solution--vaginal rejuvenation.
This is a simple solution for the women who wish to regain their hymens. They can experience that painful deflowering all over again with another drunken frat boy or their husband who they will swear their life to; and then divorce five years later. I honestly don’t believe that an intelligent woman, who is not brainwashed by the her, would ever wish to relose her virginity. Plus it will never be as traumatic as the first time, since you will still have some recollection of what it was like. Therefore other than increasing your bride-price, surgically regaining your virginity is a waste.
If that wasn’t enough to put some perspective into your head than think about this:
In America, this procedure is completely voluntary and you pay someone to perform it.
In Africa, similar procedures are done, such as cutting the inner labia or clitoris and we define that as genital mutilation.
So therefore, you are paying a doctor to perform an elective genital mutilation upon you for the purpose of appearing more sexually appealing to a man or to become more “innocent.” This alone indicates a corrupt society that believes that purity can be linked to a strange, usually male, doctor feeling you up while you’re knocked out and then slicing and dicing at your sacred-God-given-dirty-woman-parts. And this is acceptable in the Christian faith? Wait it’s not even just acceptable its encouraged!
Then not only are you supposed to be reshaped but that hair needs to be gone. I don’t care if you shave, wax, pluck, trim, go au natural; but if you choose to take it off, don’t do it to look more youthful. Any man that tells you it’s sexy to be completely bare and “youthful” is on the fast track to pedophilia and child molestation. Run now before it’s too late. But if you just prefer the feel or the ease of going bare do it for those reasons, not because some man says it turns him on. And in that case if you don’t care about the hair down there, tell him if he requires you to remove it, you require him to do the same and the same way at that. (just don’t tell him about taking the NSAIDS before the Brazilian wax)
Just remember it’s YOUR body so don’t listen to anyone about what you do with it, unless there is a danger and it’s your doctor.
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