I walk alone at night. I do. There is very little anyone can say or do to change this. I have had many people try to convince me otherwise or order me to change my methods. But I like walking, I feel lazy taking the bus, and I shouldn't have to avoid walking. I understand that as a woman I am taking unnecessary risks, which could endanger my life. The more people tell me I can't do something, the more likely I am to do it. I am told constantly by the people I live with to take the bus, or if I want to go for a walk, I need to have someone with me. I have also been commanded to take pepper spray, when I carry a knife and wrench regularly and it is proven that pepper spray is more dangerous.
I have on two distinct occasions I have had someone walk me home or to my car, but (though he feels I shouldn't walk alone) does not tell me I have to or make me feel unsafe. If I ask him, he would walk me but he does not impose. This is what I like and what makes me okay with it.
I guess my issue is why I need to be walked home? What about me needs to be sheltered and protected?
The other night, my friend Breann and I were going to a party. It was dark and she wasn't comfortable walking home and to the party alone. So she asked me, knowing I walk armed and my tough demeaner. I was her first choice. She could have asked a guy. So why is it that there are some people who believe I am truly competent and others who feel that I am not?
