Where's my team?

I am a postmodern, slightly radical, riot grrrl feminist. I fight for women's rights. I don't expect a Queer or Black Rights movement to fight for women's rights. Why is it so fucking necessary for me to be a feminist crack feminist?! I am not a humanist. I never have been, I never will be. I fight the battles I want to fight and not the ones I don't. I have no right to fight a race related battle, because if I tried I am told I have no right to say anything, so I don't. When I try to work within the queer community, I am often treated as if I am not queer enough (I am categorized as bisexual), so I don't do as much in that regard. I tried to get involved with the Trans* Rights movement, but no matter what I try, it is made VERY clear that I am unwanted. It is constantly insinuated that I am cissexist.
Yes, my feminism is for women. When feminism was created it was for women. Its not that I want to deprive other people of rights, I just do activism in categories. I feel its more efficient. You don't fight the whole war in one battle throwing everything you have at them, that's how you lose. You use different tactics and generals and attack at different times. And I know once again I will be yelled at for this but, what good is it to hold everyone back to try to advance everyone equally? I get the "you are only as fast as your slowest teammate" philosophy, but I've done team sports. If you all run at the pace of the slowest person, you will never get any better. You need to pave the way, pull them along, without cutting your time. Finish the race then go back and run with them (if they want you to).